“For about 4 years now, my parents have been divorced. 3 years ago, my father found a new girlfriend, however my 3 siblings and I only really found out about her a couple of years ago. At first, it was like any new girlfriend-of-the-father relationship. She seemed ‘cool’, was nice and not intrusive. However, as things got more serious, she has assumed much, much more power than is actually hers.
Recently she has been telling my younger, more naive siblings what to do, wuch as the dishes, when to go to bed, etc. She does not even live in the house! I believe that she should have absolutely no authority whatsoever, and should not be disciplining my siblings for they are my father’s kids, not hers. However, he things otherwise and believes that it is her right as a girlfriend to tell them what to do if she notices bad behavior. My siblings are both well-behaved and she simply tells them what to do because she feels like it! She should report it to my father and he should be the one doing the disciplining.
Also, she’s extremely presumptuous in that she is constantly changing our house around to her liking. Little things–such as where the bread goes, where the lunch bags are, etc. I know these are rather insignificant, but she is, in every way possible, trying to weave her way into our lives, and our house–which isn’t hers.
I am so frustrated with this woman and with my father believing she’s in the right to be rude to us. He never listens to me when I complain, simply rejecting what I say and getting mad. He threatens to kick me out. Please, I am extremely fed up with this person. I need to know how to deal with her and my father.”–Frustrated