“My boyfriend and I were surprised, but happy to find out we were having a baby. A few months after this, he started partying hard…staying out all night…and being gone for 2-3 days at a time. This made us fight a lot, but I thought ‘maybe he’s just getting it out of his system’. He also has PTSD from his 3 tours of duty in Iraq and he uses alcohol as his drug of choice. I thought things were getting a little too real for him and he just needed to get out for awhile.
I would see messages on his phone from other girls…[but] I never really thought he would sleep with anybody [else] and he says he never did. I just recently found a picture in his Sent Picture message box on his phone of his erect penis, sent to a phone number in Arkansas back in March. He no longer has contact with this girl, but it still feels like he cheated on me. Is it cheating if he never actually slept with her? And how can I trust what he says when he claims he never slept with anybody?
I also found a string of messages he shared with a girl in one of his school classes. She said to him that she knew his Facebook status listed him as being in a relationship, but she thought she would throw her phone number out there and he could run with it. He responded by saying ‘Oh, I’ll run with it’. Then he asked if she wanted ‘real pics, like XXX pics’.
I want to work this out, but I’m utterly heartbroken and I’m unsure if I will ever be able to believe a word he says now. And will I ever be able to be okay not looking at his phone every time a message comes in? Or wanting to read his Facebook conversations?”–Untrusting