A frustrated mom writes, “I have a 17 year old daughter who is every parent’s dream in most ways, but her spoiled attitude makes it hard to enjoy the better part of her.
She excels in sports and all the coaches fight over who gets her, and the one that does makes her captain of the team. She is an A-B student. All [the] teachers just adore her, although a few of them have commented on her attitude. She’s wise beyond her years and often her peers come to her for advice. She has never done drugs and she’s still a virgin.
Sounds wonderful, right? Her downside is she is so spoiled that she orders everyone around [and demands] how things will be. She goes nuts if we deny her money when she asks for it, and even though her car is in beautiful condition, she prefers to drive my SUV because of the image things. She’s all about image. I had her drive it in the snowy winter, for safety reasons. But when I told her I needed to swap cars for a few days, she started crying, saying she can’t drive her car to school because of her image. I’m a strict parent, and when she pulled that I decided to keep my SUV for even longer, hoping to open her eyes that she should be very grateful for what she has. Her grandmother just reinforces her entitled attitude, though, smirking at her car and saying it’s “okay”, but not quite up to the standard she thinks her granddaughter deserves. Her grandmother also complains in my daughter’s defense whenever she is denied something.
I know anyone close to the situation cannot get their point across, so I thought if you could give your opinion about her attitude, and I will show it to her and her grandmother, to show them it isn’t just us being mean or unreasonable, but giving reasonable boundaries that need to be followed. At this point, we are at such war with each other, I’m afraid it will tear apart this whole family–“Unhappy Mom”