It’s pure self-interest. If your mate is happy, you’ve got a better chance of being happy yourself. Relationships are complicated, but this much is just obvious. There are two of you in this relationship and, of course, you want to be happy. That’s a given. You find a job that’s as fulfilling, satisfying and rewarding […]

Don’t pretend you’ve never heard of it. You might have done it yourself–gone out with a guy who has less money and less of a job than you have. Maybe the girl you’re seeing doesn’t have ambitions in life beyond what club she’s going to this evening and you’ve got the next ten years of […]

This is a hard fantasy to give up. We want to believe if we just find the right person, then our relationships will be easy and we’ll magically be happy. Don’t delude yourself. Relationships are a lot like working out. It’s not supposed to be easy. The point is getting healthy and learning to deal […]

Falling in love is fun, even when it’s scary. The end of love, though, sucks. So, what do you do when you think you may need to leave? If this person didn’t have some good qualities, you wouldn’t have gotten involved in the first place. Only now, the happy times are few and far between. […]

It’s all her fault…No, it’s all his fault. Okay, the problems are mostly her fault. Actually, you’re both responsible for what goes on in your relationship. This can be hard to swallow if one of you does something really bad, like cheating or running up big joint financial debt in secret. The wounded party is […]

There’s trouble in Relationship-land and you’d like to hope it’ll just go away. After all, you guys have fought before and things always get better. You tell yourself, you just have to let it rest. Not talk everything to death. Not keep harping at each other. It’ll blow over, you say. Sadly, you may be […]

You’ve probably tried talking and just end up in pointless fights that don’t make anything better. So, you just avoid any topic that you fight about. But this doesn’t solve anything. You need to learn how to talk—and listen—to one another. This might sound juvenile and simplistic, but poor relationship communication is deathly. Arguing sounds […]

When you start seeing someone new does it ever cross your mind that if things get complicated, you’ll just break-up? Most individuals want to be in a relationship. It seems easier than being alone, but building a solid, rewarding relationship is a really hard thing to do. Maybe one of the hardest on this earth. […]

It’s true that we discard relationships more rapidly than previously, but maybe we’re just confused about relationships…. Jumping in and out of couplehood like living in a revolving door isn’t good. But staying in a going-nowhere relationship is pointless and, ultimately, bad for both of you. The question is how you decide whether to invest […]