Life is more interesting if you make some mistakes occasionally. Perfection is not a possibility. If you’re out in the world, you’re going to goof up. Advice on making the “right” choice is all around you—from your friends, your partner, your mother. You can find lots of advice on how to style your hair to […]
Some decisions just feel right. You have a sense of what you need to do—there may be no question about the choice—but basing every decision on how you feel can lead to a very chaotic life. Emotion alone doesn’t give you a complete reality. You can feel challenged, unloved or frightened, but this can shift […]
Have you ever dated someone you really weren’t that into? Ever found yourself hanging out with a member of the opposite sex and stumbling into intimacy…just because he was there? Does going out with a bunch of “coupled” friends make you uncomfortable unless you have a date? Do you sometimes avoid going home because there’s […]
“It just happened,” you say to a friend. “We were kissing…and one thing led to another.” You can say it with excitement or with a grimace. Whether you regret the sex, see it as part of the blossoming of a new relationship or view the experience as just another date, physical intimacy has become another […]
Ever sell yourself out just to stay in a relationship? Make promises to appease your partner even when he’s in the wrong? Do you walk on eggshells when she’s in a bad mood? Is there rarely a week without a big fight? And yet, you still don’t leave. Maybe you’re scared to be single. Maybe […]
You’re used to handling life pretty well. Work is sometimes a hassle, but you’ve got things under control. Maybe things are sometimes rocky in the relationship area, but that’s just a fact of life for everyone occasionally. Nothing horrible has happened in your life. Actually, everything is okay. Not much different than usual…except you’re having […]
Action without assessment…sound familiar? We tend to do and say things without a conscious reason. And if we have a reason, it’s only vaguely coherent. Most behaviors aren’t viewed by individuals as chosen. Instead, we fall back on the reactionary stance to validate our actions. “Well, he started it,” we say as if we’re eight […]
You’re the screw-up. Whatever happened, it’s your fault! You should have done something different. It’s all you. The interesting thing about responsibility is that it cannot be assumed or assigned without conferring power. Almost everyone wants to argue about that, but it is an unavoidable fact. Power and responsibility go hand-in-hand. Just think, if you […]
All of the sudden, your heart is slamming against your breast bone with every beat and feels like it’s going to jump out of your chest. You’re breaking out in a sweat. An excruciating sensation grips your chest. You must be having a heart attack! Cardiac Infarction or Panic Attack? Getting to the E.R. on […]
Picking the right career isn’t just a challenge for kids graduating from high school. Lots of adults wrestle with finding their niche. You’ll find shelves of books in the library and bookstores on career choice. The real challenge is finding the best career for you. Studies show that the average working American will have three […]