Maybe it’s time to quit whining about not finding the “right one” and start asking yourself if you’re the right one. The dating-mating hunt is huge these days. Just look at the booming internet dating sites. Lots of people struggle with rotten dates and disappointing relationships and you may be doing the same. It might, […]
Christy and Jake(not their real names) have been married seven years. They have good jobs, two wonderful children, ages three and five, and a decent income. Jake just confessed to having an affair with a co-worker. There are plenty of friends and family who tell Christy she needs to leave him, but Jake is saying […]
Liz’s boyfriend doesn’t do anything for Valentine’s Day except buy her a lame card from the grocery store and suggest they order pizza instead of her cooking. She cries every February. He’s not that good at birthdays, either, always wanting her to tell him exactly what to get her. Whenever she dresses up, all he […]
Denise feels horrible her marriage fell apart. It’s all her fault, she’ll state sadly. She didn’t love him enough. She harped at him too much and she was too hard to live with. It was all her, not him. Marco knows his 20 year-old son is struggling in college because he can’t seem to motivate […]
When you and your current squeeze break-up, what’s the first thing you do? Head to the gym? Get a new haircut and wardrobe? Start going out more? Are you immediately shopping for someone new? This is how we deal with grief. Dog die? Buy a new puppy. Get a divorce? Register on Match.com or some […]
Screwing up on a project…or blowing a proposal…or earning a D on a paper can make us feel like worthless losers, but each one of these failures brings us valuable information. We actually need to learn to process failure and rejection. This sounds so wrong! Failure should be avoided at all costs, shouldn’t it? Rejection […]
What if all your friends and relatives really hate your girlfriend? Maybe the two of you get into big fights and she throws you out every other month, leaving you to spend the night on your brother’s couch. Possibly your boyfriend gets drunk at your family get-togethers. Or maybe the two of you fight. A […]
Only a few choices seem big at the moment you’re making them. You look down a long aisle of a church and see the person you’re marrying–that’s a big choice. You look down at the contract you’re about to sign for a thirty-year mortgage on a house. That seems big, too, even though you can […]
It seems so obvious, I mean, who doesn’t care about someone? But this is more difficult than it looks. Love is hard, just ask the newly-divorced. It hurts, and who wants to hurt? You could decide to be an island and not care for anyone, but that’s not a great option either. You live an […]
Perfectionism is tempting, even though being consumed by the drive to be perfect is bad for you. We may try to be a perfect mother or ideal mate, but we don’t necessarily love those who seem to be without flaws. Everyone wants Martha Stewart’s soufflé to fall. We tend to resent perfection even as we […]