“I am a 25 year old professional working in India. I am in a relationship with a girl of the same age from past 3 years. We are no yet married, but we were staying together for last 1 year. I was down with a nagging chest pain for few months and my entire routine got affected due to that. I tried very hard to go for the job. I still managed with her support an care.
Due to my ill health, my work got affected and my performance came down. I started feeling pressurized from all directions. Although we communicated well, we argued because sometimes she comes home little late after her work. Since the place is not so safe, I used to tell her to leave the office on time. It always happens in the other way. One day, she got very late and lost her way. I was a bit angry on her because she repeated the same despite my warnings. I did not go to pick her up. She came home and did not speak a word. I also kept silent. I knew that she was hurt by my behavior. She did not expect this of me.
I usually don’t take out my feelings outside, thinking it might hurt her. I suppressed everything within and one day she asked why am I not loving her the way I used to. For the first time, I raised my voice to her. She felt that I don’t give importance to her. I was literally tired of thinking about our marriage, my bad health job and financial commitments. She felt I was angry with her. In fact, I was angry with myself because things were going out of my control.
She told me that she is not interested in continuing the relationship. She moved out, saying she doesn’t want to see or talk to me anymore. She doesn’t reply to mail or phone calls. I understand she’s hurt and I realice that this is my fault. I behaved rudely, but only once. I feel guilty after that incident, but she is not ready to listen to me. She said that she’s lost the trust in me, but I need her in my life.
Please extend your support in the form of advice or actions to heal my relationship with my love.”–H