When you and your current squeeze break-up, what’s the first thing you do? Head to the gym? Get a new haircut and wardrobe? Start going out more? Are you immediately shopping for someone new? This is how we deal with grief. Dog die? Buy a new puppy. Get a divorce? Register on Match.com or some […]
Screwing up on a project…or blowing a proposal…or earning a D on a paper can make us feel like worthless losers, but each one of these failures brings us valuable information. We actually need to learn to process failure and rejection. This sounds so wrong! Failure should be avoided at all costs, shouldn’t it? Rejection […]
What if all your friends and relatives really hate your girlfriend? Maybe the two of you get into big fights and she throws you out every other month, leaving you to spend the night on your brother’s couch. Possibly your boyfriend gets drunk at your family get-togethers. Or maybe the two of you fight. A […]
You love your kids and want to protect them from all the bad things in this world. You know you can’t, but you want to. When you’re really objective, you know your kids have to deal with the stuff that isn’t always fun in life, sometimes its downright crappy. So, what’s a parent to do? […]
Depression feels horrible, but it may have a purpose. Emotions have their own peculiar rationality and are one of the most intriguing aspects of being human. There’s a reason why you feel what you feel. For the last decade or so, pharmaceutical companies have been selling the idea that mood is merely a fluke of […]
Only a few choices seem big at the moment you’re making them. You look down a long aisle of a church and see the person you’re marrying–that’s a big choice. You look down at the contract you’re about to sign for a thirty-year mortgage on a house. That seems big, too, even though you can […]
It seems so obvious, I mean, who doesn’t care about someone? But this is more difficult than it looks. Love is hard, just ask the newly-divorced. It hurts, and who wants to hurt? You could decide to be an island and not care for anyone, but that’s not a great option either. You live an […]
Perfectionism is tempting, even though being consumed by the drive to be perfect is bad for you. We may try to be a perfect mother or ideal mate, but we don’t necessarily love those who seem to be without flaws. Everyone wants Martha Stewart’s soufflé to fall. We tend to resent perfection even as we […]
If things are rocky between you two, separating might sound less traumatic and final than breaking-up. You need to think about this, though. Individuals have a variety of reasons they prefer separation. Look clearly at your reasons. If you’ve been in a committed relationship, you have feelings for the person you’ve been with–maybe a big […]
Life can be rough. Work situations can leave you feeling wrung out. Traffic is hell. Your relationship might have land mines you don’t know how to avoid. At the end of the day, you can feel frazzled and stressed. You’ve been battered and your soul needs some comfort. Maybe you’ve had a fight with your […]