“I find myself in a rough situation. My husband and I are planning to tell my daughter that the father she has known all her life is not really her father. Her real father had not been in the picture and really has not been a part of her life. However, just recently, I have […]
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SEX & ANXIETY
You can pay for Viagra and Cialis and other erectile dysfunction drugs, but your sexual difficulties may be more directly related to anxiety than any physical cause. Anxiety is sexual satisfaction’s enemy. For both men and women, anxiety can disrupt the cycle of sexual arousal to sexual fulfillment. The biggest contributing factor to anxiety and […]
HOW TO FORGIVE
There are lots of professionals who urge forgiveness, saying that forgiving helps victims heal. This is true, but knowing how to forgive a straying lover or a childhood persecutor or abuser still eludes many. Whether the damage done has to do with being physically or verbally assaulted or if someone was particularly mean to you, […]
WANT MORE/BETTER SEX?
Listen close. The secret to good sex isn’t in a little blue pill or any pill. While sex with various, sometimes random partners is the goal for some, most people just want more or better sex with their partners. This is what I’m talking about and it’s really very simple–resolve the conflicts between the two […]
RELATIONSHIPS ARE COMPLICATED
K writes, “I have been divorced for five years. My adult children (32 and 24) live with their mom. I remarried and divorced since then. The problem I ran into is that my adult children were home-schooled and did not get a solid education…just recently obtaining their GED’s. I get along good with my children’s […]
THE PERFECT SPOILED KID
A frustrated mom writes, “I have a 17 year old daughter who is every parent’s dream in most ways, but her spoiled attitude makes it hard to enjoy the better part of her. She excels in sports and all the coaches fight over who gets her, and the one that does makes her captain of […]
LETTING GO OF THE KID
At the risk of being called a hypocrite, I’m advocating allowing your kids to make their own lives. Lots of high school students are furiously writing college entrance essays and making themselves sick, worrying about what they’ll do now that they’re entering adulthood. Then there are the slackers who seem more interested in partying and […]
ONLY MY FAILURES
I’m going to be really honest here about a painful subject…my kids mostly just remember my parenting failures. The moments when I screwed up. This sucks the big one, but they remember the time when I went all crazy yelling at them–never mind that the yelling moments haven’t been all that frequent. They remember the […]
BULLYING…DO YOU CARE TOO MUCH?
Ask any teacher and they’ll tell you that bullying is a growing problem in the school, so yes, you care. You don’t want your kid picked on or harrassed. But bullying by definition refers to any overbearing person who intimidates individuals who are weaker or smaller…. This could describe your boss. Individuals who use power […]
TOO FRIENDLY WITH HER EX?
My girlfriend and I have been dating for a year now. She’s been divorced for three years and I’m the first person she dated. She has three kids–ages 10, 8 and 6. Her ex is very much a part of the kids’ lives, which is great. He gets the kids every other weekend. …Since he […]