I was always a drifty kid, prone to flashes of intelligence, but I was really bad at finishing my work. At least, that’s how I remember it and, honestly, I don’t remember a lot. The names of classmates, even as recently as college, are lost to me, mostly because I’ve always been pretty introverted and […]
Blending two families is a major task and there are pitfalls, but the biggest is when parents want their chosen mate to act as their children’s father/mother. You as a parent get to decide if you’re going to divorce. You also choose who you date or marry, but you can’t make your kids love the […]
There are the girls on SEX AND THE CITY and a bunch of sleazy websites who choose sexual partners purely for the erotic buzz they think they’ll get, but do you know why you make the sexual choices you do? Why do you sleep with whoever you sleep with? Of course, “sleep with” is a […]
Before anyone accuses me of being anti-family, let me say that I think family is very important…but maybe not the most important thing, depending on your family. Having loving supportive parents and siblings is a wonderful luck of the draw. Some people are fortunate enough to be born into families that encourage and add to […]
Lisa writes: “I’m 17. All my family does is fight. My family downgrades me every chance they get. They sometimes hit me and always cuss and yell at me. I feel like I have so many secrets and no one to talk to…I know my family wouldn’t believe me. I don’t know what to do […]
A reader writes: “I was married and divorced two years later because there was no understanding with my first husband. We mutually agreed to divorce, after which my infant son and I stayed with my mother. Nine years later, the man I worked for proposed marriage. I took some time to decide as he was […]
A male reader writes, “I need advice on what to do. My wife has been abused, raped and mistreated [before]…. Last Thursday, my wife went our mutual friend’s…to watch his kid for him…. When he got home, he tricked her to drink alcohol…. He then commenced to do things (take her clothes off, touch her, […]
Being beautiful, skinny or rich doesn’t guarantee relationship happiness. Hollywood hook-ups and break-ups show us this over and over. What we think will make us happily mated, doesn’t always do so. I saw a foster child in play therapy yesterday. On Fridays, my husband and I enjoy going together to do in-home therapy with foster […]
I took a daughter of mine to a distant city yesterday and left her there. She’s entering a doc grad program at a university and is now immersed in adjusting to a new city and teaching her first class. Your kids may be your kids all your life, but good parenting means setting them up […]
In parenting, it’s sometimes the things you don’t say that make the most impact. You love your kids just as I love mine, and you want to shelter them from the foreseeable storms, the things you know will cause them grief. This can be anything from steering them clear of transgressions of the law to […]