Some think power is an ugly word, but we all crave the experience of what we say and do mattering. That’s power. There are two kinds–personal power(which we all need) and power in relationships(which is massively important). Every human experience has to do with this need and the biggest misunderstanding comes from thinking you can […]
Lots of people have reasons to be depressed–troubled relationships, money problems, loss of a loved one, or poor health. And then some struggle with depression with they have no visible reason to feel so badly. Depression is defined as a loss of pleasure, low mood and low self-esteem. For some time now, the medical and psychiatric establishment has diagnosed […]
I’m going out on a limb here, but I’m don’t believe most emotional issues have to last a lifetime. Clients come into my office all the time saying they’ve been given a diagnosis–usually by a medical person–and told that whatever behavior they are dealing with is disabling and unchangeable. It will last a lifetime. I’m not a big fan […]
I’m all for sensitivity and concern about your sexual partner having a really good time, but you can’t truly be fulfilled and engaged in the activity if you’re not focusing on what you feel. Sex feels good–when done correctly–but it requires you to lose yourself in your own sensation. What you feel when you touch the other person…what you […]
The fear of this is one of the most frequently cited reasons for staying in unhappy relationships. It is very challenging to be with another person–to deal with conflicts and disagreements–but many of us would rather do that than live our lives without a committed partner. Some individuals say they stay in miserable relationships because they’ve “known each other so […]
The short answer to this is yes, if one partner mentions it. Even if going to counseling comes up in the middle of a fight, even if you make up and everything seems okay afterwards, you probably need counseling. You know how they say that high blood pressure is a “silent killer”? Well, unresolved conflict […]
Sometimes you just need someone to talk to. Someone who doesn’t know you or your family. Sometimes, you realize you and your partner fight all the time, even though you still really love each other. We at the Family Counseling Center have professional counselors who’d like to help you sort through these difficulties. Whether you’re dealing […]
Yes, you may be doing this if you don’t allow your children to deal with some issues on their own. Most parents love their kids and lots of parents struggle to let their kids fail, but failure is important. How are kids supposed to learn they can make different choices if they don’t get the […]
When my husband was recently headed out on a bicycle ride with a friend, the guy remembered they’d gotten thirsty on their last ride. Without going to ask his wife, he unstrapped two bottle holders from her bicycle and put them on his and my husband’s bikes. When my husband made a comment that this […]
How can the person you’ve built a life with be so annoying? Being in a couple can be exciting, fulfilling and annoying. If only the jerk would listen. Yes, couple counseling can be very helpful, but don’t wait too late. The most important aspect of being a couple is being able to resolve issues. All […]