The majority of folk remember being chosen last when playing games at school. This can’t actually have been the case because just looking at it statistically, most had to have been picked somewhere in the middle. But lots of people identify with that chosen last feeling. The memory of this childhood trauma is an indication […]

Don’t feel alone–lots of folks are dealing with this problem. Whether this involves mainly an addiction to pornography or you’ve progressed to the point of meeting strangers for quick hook-ups, sex addiction can take a huge toll. It interferes with real personal relationships and can take over your life. Recent research indicates some new and […]

First a response to someone who solicited it: S. writes “I’m a 30 year-old Muslim, married a month ago. I saw my wife only one time and, at that time, I was satisfied with her, but then I got her photo and I wasn’t fully satisfied when I saw it. I informed my parents I […]

Few would argue that children change things, we just not always clear on what that means. Having kids isn’t an automatic action–they deserve better and so do you. There are lots of reasons given for having children, the most disturbing of which is one of the most frequently cited: If you don’t have kids who […]

Nostalgia has it’s place, but don’t forget to be somewhat realistic about the old days. Happiness is a general condition of feeling good about one’s life, good about one’s work and good about relationships–basically, feeling good about one’s self. It’s easy to get sucked into the belief that former days were golden times with little […]

As a result of our cultural desire to be “productive” all the time, we’re creating a nation of people whose minds take temporary, mandatory vacations. You may believe–and have been told this by parents, bosses and the media–that you need to make the most of your time. What’s not addressed in this is the brain […]

Adopting a “psychologically disabled” lifestyle is becoming a career choice for some and a lifestyle for others. With the societal acceptance of emotional challenges has come a sad embracing of incapacity. Good therapists want to help you get functional and happy. It’s important to accept that we all have issues. Life is full of challenges […]

Let’s all admit it–we love being right. It just feels good. But this is one feel-good situation that can have ugly side effects. There naturally are conflicts in relationships, disagreements that can be trivial or bitter or both. You have different view points, different religions, different opinions of Obama. Whatever. You need to realize, though, […]