A client of mine recently spoke about his depression and his tendency to isolate himself. The one thing he did regularly was to visit a convenience store near his home. He liked to go there and get a drink, talk to the clerks and, in that way, get out of himself and his dark moments […]
“How do you deal with in-laws who don’t like you? My boyfriend ‘John’ and I have been together for 37 years on and off and have been living together for 20 years. I have done nothing to my in-laws in the past to make them dislike me. I am 11 years younger than my boyfriend […]
All of us have fears, things we really don’t want to happen. No matter how strong and positive you see yourself as or simply try to be, fear is a natural emotion and it can haunt your dreams and cripple your waking hours. You may fear for loved ones–your children, your mate, your parents–or for […]
The fallacy behind this is the assumption that you will know your dates by the third time you see him. Most relationships break-up over conflicts in how money is handled, followed closely by sex, children, in-laws and religion. I’d guess that disagreements over who does household chores make a close sixth. Really…how much of this […]
This is one of those things that always happens to the other person, not you. We have the image that the abused are uneducated and poor, generally unable to get out and make their lives better. This is sadly sometimes true, but not always. Abuse happens to the educated, too. Those from good homes and […]
“I am 20 years old and my girlfriend is 19. She has very controlling parents. They won’t let her out, at all, and she has to lie to them, telling them that she’s going to work just to hang out with me. I don’t get to see her a lot and she’s been working a […]
“My mother and I have difficulty communicating…We attempted counseling, but it has made it even more difficult! I really believed we were going to try when she wanted to meet once a week to talk. I wanted to put things back together and I believed her 100%. She is an alcoholic and I’ve learned not […]
“I’m writing this because I need some advice. I really don’t know how you will help me with this, but I figured I’ll write. I just found out that my mom has tumors in her stomach and she might have ovarian cancer. I’ve been the ‘hard a**’ during this situation, trying to keep hope alive, […]
Parents want them and most kids want to be them, but its a not necessarily a good thing to be The Good Kid. Most families have one of these, the kid who always does what their parents want–at least when they’re observed–and get most of the parental kudos. These are the ones who take pride […]
Do you listen well when you’re being shouted at? Most of us don’t. The delivery of the message makes a lot of different, but the urge to yell is powerful. This is particularly true when you’re talking to a child or adolescent who blocks you out or when you have a lot of emotion about […]