Our behavior is often influenced by our belief that others are watching, criticising and judging us. This anxiety often constricts and narrows our perspective. We don’t get to the simple choice of “what do I want to do here” because we worry about how we’re viewed by others.Don’t get me wrong–others’ matter a whole bunch. […]
The holiday season can be joyous and filled with fun. It’s supposed to be a big family time of the year, whether you go to church together or focus more on the secular side of things. Some families, however, have difficult times. Alcohol and togetherness can bring out unresolved issues and make getting together a […]
“I was involved in an relationship when I was only 24 years old with a girl who had just completed her high school education. She got pregnant and we had a baby girl. Being a person who is a victim of family breakup, I decided to take her as my wife. Now the problem is that I […]
“My stepson is ten, and has no boundaries. At his mothers home, he’s allowed to watch any rated show and movies and play any kind of video games any time and as long as he wants. He’s allowed to wander the neighborhood and go to the store with friends or alone. He eats and drinks whatever he […]
“I want help from you to save our marriage. We had a love marriage based on understanding each others feelings. We love each other a lot but still a lot of things are going wrong. My hubby has no time at all. We’ve been married two years and we haven’t spend a single whole day together. All […]
“I would like some advice on a situation that happened 20 years ago. When I first started dating my wife our children, my 10 year old daughter and her 12 year old son had some sexual acting out. We immediately took action and sent the boy to a treatment center for a year. My daughter […]
“My mom and dad divorced when I was two. My dad physically abused my mom, so she took me and left. They tried again a few months later and the abuse escalated. He broke her glasses, pulled her hair, slapped her and pushed her down. They separated for about 13 years. Then later when I was […]
Lately, foster parents have been getting really bad press, what with cases like Jerry Sandusky molesting the foster kid he adopted. The foster system isn’t always pretty. There certainly are bad people in the system and some are just trying to get money, housing foster kids for the cash, but I feel the need to point out that […]
You’re a grown up now. You don’t have summers off to swim and play and now you have to find your own path. So do you drift or drive?When college graduates get a degree and move out into the world, they often have big debt, but no real direction. This is difficult, considering the job […]
In our culture, it’s a common belief that being satisfied is a bad thing. We equate this with not having initiative or with being lazy, but personal satisfaction has many more benefits than risks. Being satisfied with the accomplishments you have doesn’t have to indicate that you’re not still yearning and seeking new and exciting […]