“My sister and I are grown and on our own for fifteen plus years. We have [now] been disowned by our father for the past year. Our mother passed away 7 years ago, [but] just last year her mother passed away. [Our] father became very upset when my mother’s portion of the inheritance from our […]
‘Tis the season to be jolly…and shop and eat and spend time with family, although that last one may be making you nuts. These are the folks you grew up with and sometimes you want to bash their heads together. Most of us love the people who share our DNA, but that doesn’t make the […]
K. from Kentucky is very distressed that he’s cheated on his wife with a woman he says he cares for, but not as much as he loves his wife. He’s going to confess this to his wife (he doesn’t know how or when), but fears this will break them up. Probably. Since they don’t live […]
You’re always supposed to be nice…right? That’s the message in the Santa Claus song(“….He knows when you’ve been naughty. He knows when you’ve been nice…”) and that’s what most mothers tell their kids. Particularly girl children. But niceness has limitations. Sometimes you need to state the facts and let happen what happens. NICE When you’re […]
It is a sad fact that relationships end. Sometimes with no obvious warning and sometimes with lots of break-up/get-back-together phases. Losing an individual who’s been very important in your life can be tremendously painful. If you’ve struggled through long, hard relationship battles, the end to it all can almost be a relief, but even then, […]
Having issues with a parent is so common it’s become comedien-fodder. Think about all the “Mom” jokes you’ve heard. There are few things more that effect you more than how you get along with your parents. They were massively involved in your developing self-worth and their lives impacted you at a very sensitive time…they probably […]
Why give yourself the grief of one more failed relationship? Why not opt out on the whole thing and embrace personal isolationism? Dump the significant other search, let your kids(if you have any) go to the devil and live all alone? It sounds like a relief, if you’ve been beating your head against relationship walls. […]
Looking at strangers doing sex acts can have an odd sense of intimacy to it. You’re watching erotic images which triggers your own arousal. It’s not exactly auto-eroticism because you’re not completely by yourself. You can get into lots of variations from just looking at images on your monitor or in magazines from having sexual […]
Hard is no fun, but taking the easy road will buy you some ugly consequences. Whether we’re talking relationships or jobs, be suspicious of those that don’t require anything from you. Nothing that comes cheap is worth much. This isn’t to say you should climb Everest or look for impossible suitors. Just know that easy […]
Understanding life is only less difficult than understanding yourself and the people who are important to you. Always ask why–Why you’ve taken a specific action or why your friend said a certain thing. Why is an important question to develop understanding. Make sure, though, that you’re really questioning, not accusing. This is important when you’re […]