We have a lot of mixed feelings about “family.” Depending on the luck of the draw, for you family can mean a loving, supportive unit of people who look a lot like you….or it can be a code word for hell. In the Western world, the end of the calendar year is a period traditionally […]
Maybe there’s more to this question than common knowledge suggests. Many people believe that cheating in a committed relationship is a personal flaw that cannot be changed. I think that’s an over-simplification. Some individuals adhere to this belief, thinking they just need to shun those who’ve cheated and that the cheater will never change, but […]
Sibling relationships can go one of two ways–you can be stuck like glue to one another or feel as disconnected as scattered Legos. The home you grow up in has a big, big impact on this, but not necessarily in a specific direction. Children who grow up in terrible situations sometimes cling together as if […]
There are the girls on SEX AND THE CITY and a bunch of sleazy websites who choose sexual partners purely for the erotic buzz they think they’ll get, but do you know why you make the sexual choices you do? Why do you sleep with whoever you sleep with? Of course, “sleep with” is a […]
A male reader writes, “I need advice on what to do. My wife has been abused, raped and mistreated [before]…. Last Thursday, my wife went our mutual friend’s…to watch his kid for him…. When he got home, he tricked her to drink alcohol…. He then commenced to do things (take her clothes off, touch her, […]
Being beautiful, skinny or rich doesn’t guarantee relationship happiness. Hollywood hook-ups and break-ups show us this over and over. What we think will make us happily mated, doesn’t always do so. I saw a foster child in play therapy yesterday. On Fridays, my husband and I enjoy going together to do in-home therapy with foster […]
I took a daughter of mine to a distant city yesterday and left her there. She’s entering a doc grad program at a university and is now immersed in adjusting to a new city and teaching her first class. Your kids may be your kids all your life, but good parenting means setting them up […]
“He just wants sex. He doesn’t necessarily want me.” I hear this alot and it’s always said with resentment. Don’t go here. Problems with sex are typically an indication of poor communication or no communication. As emotional estrangement builds, sex fades away. When you have a sex disconnect, a relationship disconnect is almost always present. […]
Many an individual comes to my office saying their relationship just isn’t how we used to be. They’re trying to sort out what to do with the marriage–whether to leave or to stay and keep plugging away. These folks report eroded emotions. That which used to be loving and connected, just isn’t anymore. When you […]
A reader in the military writes: “I am currently deployed to Afghanistan and my husband is deployed to Iraq. I received an email yesterday from him stating that he has a six month old son. We have only been married for 12 months. He said it happened before we got married, but we have a […]