Okay this is a topic you never want to have to know about…but you may need. When a couple hits more snags than they can stand, they often call it off. They break-up. This is an ugly process and this is often when couples seek counseling. They also go back to church, but that’s another […]
This is one of those things that always happens to the other person, not you. We have the image that the abused are uneducated and poor, generally unable to get out and make their lives better. This is sadly sometimes true, but not always. Abuse happens to the educated, too. Those from good homes and […]
“I am 35 years old. I have five children from 3 different fathers. I was married to…a man who was a little too fond of drinking. My first husband is the father of my two oldest daughters. I am now remarried and we’re approaching our 3rd anniversary. My present husband is the father of the […]
“My boyfriend and I were surprised, but happy to find out we were having a baby. A few months after this, he started partying hard…staying out all night…and being gone for 2-3 days at a time. This made us fight a lot, but I thought ‘maybe he’s just getting it out of his system’. He […]
I always learn things from my job–both things about myself and things about the world. This week a client used a phrase that very clearly summarizes what many folks are dealing with. She said her relative is okay with being a side piece. Lots of people are dealing with relationship issues. Trouble in this area […]
No one else can tell you when its time for you to move on, to leave a relationship behind. Lots of people may want to, the individuals to whom you’ve complained about your mate or the one’s who’ve patched you up when things got rough. Still, they don’t get to make this decision. I see […]
A few weeks back my husband, Dr. Roger Doss, and I gave a continuing education workshop for about 100 professionals in the mental health field. The topic was grief. Because Roger and I enjoy presenting workshops in an interactive style, we started this one by asking the participants to write down–anonymously–their greatest losses. We asked […]
“My family is constantly squabbling. We’re more or less obsessed with being right and pointing fingers at the person who’s wrong(always someone else). It doesn’t really help that my son and husband…get so incensed that within seconds of the start of an argument, they’re already shouting. They never actually listen to the other person’s side […]
Being alone can be a relief after a bad relationship, but most of us don’t want to live our lives without a partner. Being with someone can be difficult, though. Most individuals would rather have a significant other than be alone. Just look at all the dating websites that have sprung up in the last […]
“My girlfriend and I have been together for two years no. In the beginning, we had our ups and downs and we both made mistakes and cheated. I cheated because I was still immature. It was no fault of hers. She cheated because I was being so neglectful, which we now know is because I […]