The parents of adult children often come to see me in great distress over the choices their children are making. They usually want me to convince their kids of the error of their ways and I get this. These parents have lived longer and often have seen that some choices lead only to heartbreak. The harsh […]
When you were a small child, you may have had a mother or grandmother who offered to kiss your boo-boos to make them all better. Now that you’re grown up, you might wish it were that simple. When you love someone, you want to help them through difficulties even when you could scream about all […]
Clients frequently come into counseling, reporting problems with their mates, but saying that they need to fix themselves first. Then they plan to work on the relationship. Individual therapy is certainly your right and you can be as private in this as you like. Coming alone is sometimes a relief to people because they can […]
I hear all the time that people want easy relationships. I get this, but I’ve never met a relationship that didn’t have conflict. We all hate relationship conflict (except for the release of yelling and the exciting make-up sex afterwards), but conflict in relationship has an important function. That being said, it’s often a tendency […]
“I’m a 37 year-old single mom. A year ago, I decided to leave my boyfriend of 7 years. I have a 9 year-old son he raised and he and I have a 3 year-old daughter. After having my daughter, I was a stay-at-home mom. My boyfriend kept me home with no car. For the past […]
“I’m writing to you because I’ve decided to separate from my husband of 19 years. We have one daughter together who will be going to college this fall and my other daughter (not his) is married with 2 children. My husband was addicted to pain killers, Zanex, Oxycotin, crack and heroin. He had colon cancer […]
“I’m 28 years old and my husband is 48 years old. We met 4 years ago and have a 2 year-old daughter together. I’m so confused with our marriage. I love him, but I’m not sure how much more I can take. He has 3 kids from a previous marriage. Their ages are 26, 21 […]
“My husband and I have been married for 16 years and have three children together. We have been through a lot of problems in our marriage. My husband is a very quiet man. We hardly talk to each other or go out alone together. If he goes anywhere, it’s always around his family, but not […]
“I am divorced with two children. My ex-husband and father of my children was very abusive (sexually, emotionally, verbally). He forced himself of me many times, called me horrific names, refused to support me in any way, would not work and would not celebrate holidays. When I had a baby die, he told me to […]
“My mother and I have been fighting more and more lately. We used to get along really well, but after my brother got married a couple of years ago, things went downhill. My mom went over the deep end with her mother (who she does not get along with) coming into town, and my father […]