Cheating happens in just over half of all relationships, although the statistics are wobbly since people don’t easily admit to this behavior. The inference here is that lots of people aren’t happy in their relationship commitments. Even though this is fairly common, most feel badly about breaking their vows. But they still do it way […]
“My daughter is 11 and lies about everything. Can you give me some tips to try to help her? We are at our wits end. I have tried to reward her for good behavior and it will start to get better, but then it will relapse again. Her dad is only in the picture when […]
Let’s just start off by saying there are usually many right ways to accomplish whatever, but many individuals still insist they’re right about pretty much everything.Admittedly, being right feels good. We’re like kids in the classroom, eagerly raising our hands when we know the answer. We love winning–being right!–so much that many of us are tempted to cheat […]
The most frequent reason given as to why individuals don’t leave unsatisfactory relationships is that they don’t want to be alone.We live in a couple world where many see even an unhappy connection as better than no connection at all. We’d rather have miserable Valentine’s Days, dissatisfied with whatever does or doesn’t happen, than have no valentine to […]
Valentine’s Day is one of the most celebrated/hated days of the year. With the focus on showing your love, things often get twisted, so adhere to these rules for couples who’ve been to a few rodeos:Don’t Do Unto Others…..Following the golden rule is a pretty good way to live, except not everyone wants you to […]
Dr. Carol “Our son Ethan is 3 yrs old and when my husband asks for him to give him a kiss or hug him he refuses. He will easily give me kisses and hugs though. It seems like they are already starting to butt heads. My husband tends to use an authoritarian style parenting. He will […]
Valentine’s is a day of big expectation and a certain amount of stress. This is sad because love is supposed to refresh, comfort and renew. But that often isn’t the reality for some. So, here’s a prescription– Ask What Makes Your Love Feel Loved A surprising number of people can’t accurately say what makes their […]
Even if you feel loved, you may not feel respected.While the term respect technically means to be valued, it also can mean being treated with courtesy and having certain rights, which is where the problems often come in. In the complexity of relationships, we need to both be respected and to respect, but that can be difficult.Parents talk […]
We focus a lot on resolutions at the first of the year–often the same ones every year–and after getting a gym membership and a personal trainer, subscribing to a diet service or promising ourselves we’ll live better lives in various ways, we often fail. Let’s admit it, sometimes we suck. We don’t tell our bosses […]
Our behavior is often influenced by our belief that others are watching, criticising and judging us. This anxiety often constricts and narrows our perspective. We don’t get to the simple choice of “what do I want to do here” because we worry about how we’re viewed by others.Don’t get me wrong–others’ matter a whole bunch. […]