We parents have a tendency to judge whether or not we’ve done a good job by how our kids are doing. But that perspective ignores the very real fact that our children have minds of their own. They make choices and, particularly when they’re adults, those choices determine what they do with their lives. But […]
When a marriage ends, people typically have lots of emotions. Sometimes the relief they feel is mixed with sorrow; the anger and loss can be mixed with excitement. Life will definitely be different. Sadly, some individuals turn these feelings into rage, particularly if they didn’t want the marriage to end. Then, we can end up […]
When counseling with individuals about relationship problems, I frequently hear, “We knew each other since we were kids. I’ve known him(or her) forever.” This is almost invariably uttered when clients attempt to tell me why they’re still in a troubled relationship. (I always ask why people have continued these involvements, as their answers can be […]
“Dear Dr. Doss, I am 19 years old and currently living alone right now. I live in Texas, but I’m originally from California (where I’d rather be). For several years since I moved to Texas- around my freshman year of high school- I’ve felt like my family has… drifted apart. I’ve heard that that’s normal… […]
Lately, foster parents have been getting really bad press, what with cases like Jerry Sandusky molesting the foster kid he adopted. The foster system isn’t always pretty. There certainly are bad people in the system and some are just trying to get money, housing foster kids for the cash, but I feel the need to point out that […]
You’re a grown up now. You don’t have summers off to swim and play and now you have to find your own path. So do you drift or drive?When college graduates get a degree and move out into the world, they often have big debt, but no real direction. This is difficult, considering the job […]
We all know that parenting is a very difficult job, but its not very commonly addressed that moms have a bigger role than dads. In previous eras, some moms stayed home and focused on keeping house and parenting the children in the families. Dads made the money and meted out discipline, as in “Just wait […]
In our culture, it’s a common belief that being satisfied is a bad thing. We equate this with not having initiative or with being lazy, but personal satisfaction has many more benefits than risks. Being satisfied with the accomplishments you have doesn’t have to indicate that you’re not still yearning and seeking new and exciting […]
Hi Dr, I am from India, am going through a real tough time now with my family and spouse. I could not make any decision and am totally confused. Can you please help me providng some suggestion. * Dear India, Since you didn’t mention what issues you’re dealing with, I can only address your struggle […]
“I dated a wonderful guy. He proposed and, while I initially accepted, I later gave him back his ring. After 3 years of trying to be patient with his views on his finances, I left the relationship. In the beginning he was living in a basement of a female he ‘knew’, but once we started […]