Everyone screws up sometimes. Most people screw up over and over, and this doesn’t have anything to do with how smart they are. When it comes to relationships, even the most intelligent people sometimes make goofy choices or say things they don’t really mean or do stuff they shouldn’t do. It happens. The most important […]
Break-ups are painful, particularly if you don’t want to break-up with your significant other. And few things are black-and-white. Maybe you can work it out. Every relationship has bumps along the way. You might have done or said some stupid, unkind things and you’re sorry for these. If your partner is walking away, it’s understandable […]
Going for the job you want, but are afraid you won’t get. Sticking by your word and following-through on difficult, but educational consequences for your kid. Actually asking for—and listening to—your mate’s feedback on what you do that makes him/her crazy. Standing up for what you believe, even when it’s unpopular and may lose you […]
I know they screw up. I know you love them and you don’t want them mess up their lives. You’ve been down a few roads and you know a thing or two, but that doesn’t mean you need to be monitoring your adult children. You don’t get to tell them how to live their lives—or […]
It is very natural to want a relationship, someone to cherish and comfort you. Someone who loves you and is committed to being with you. Most human beings want just this. Relationships, though, are challenging, frustrating and maddening. They are the hardest thing we do in this world. Even the most highly intelligent individuals with […]
If you care about theirhomework more than the kids do, there’s a problem. This is the kids’ issue, not yours. It’s not about whether you’re a good or a bad parent. It’s about the kid. Even really great parents have sometimes have kids who do poorly in school. Trying to wrestle your kids into doing […]
Blocked relationships are like clogged plumbing—the emotional stuff has to go somewhere. If you’re in a relationship with issues that have been unresolved for a long time, you’re vulnerable to falling into something with someone else. The longer your primary relationship goes unresolved, the more likely this is to happen. Leaving an unhappy relationship can […]
You’ve probably heard that relationships sometimes require you to give 110%. It is true that you sometimes give more when your mate is struggling, but you need to also know that you don’t get to tell your significant other what to do. The most challenging part of love is that, while you are impacted by […]
Don’t think you can judge whether or not you’ve been a good parent by the choices your children make. It may seem like your parenting success should have a clear outcome, but that’s not the case. The children of really terrific parents sometimes make really bad choices. The goal is simple: happy, healthy, well-behaved children […]
This is Relationship 101. No one likes to lose. Losing sucks and if you feel like your mate wins every argument, you won’t stay there long. Some folks try to deal with this winning-losing issue by never fighting, but this just doesn’t work. Like it or hate it, all relationships have conflict. Even if you […]