“It just happened,” you say to a friend. “We were kissing…and one thing led to another.” You can say it with excitement or with a grimace. Whether you regret the sex, see it as part of the blossoming of a new relationship or view the experience as just another date, physical intimacy has become another […]
So, if you’re divorced, why are you still acting like you’re together? Isn’t the fact that you felt you couldn’t rely on him part of the reason you kicked him out? Didn’t she cheat on you with other guys until you got tired of it and called a lawyer? In today’s world, the marriage may […]
Ever sell yourself out just to stay in a relationship? Make promises to appease your partner even when he’s in the wrong? Do you walk on eggshells when she’s in a bad mood? Is there rarely a week without a big fight? And yet, you still don’t leave. Maybe you’re scared to be single. Maybe […]
You meet this really incredible person, you go out, you make-out…and we’re off to the races. With today’s pacing, relationships go from zero to living together in a matter of weeks. Physical intimacy on the first night of meeting an attractive member of the opposite sex is common. Relationship intimacy, however, in it’s very definition […]
You’re used to handling life pretty well. Work is sometimes a hassle, but you’ve got things under control. Maybe things are sometimes rocky in the relationship area, but that’s just a fact of life for everyone occasionally. Nothing horrible has happened in your life. Actually, everything is okay. Not much different than usual…except you’re having […]
Action without assessment…sound familiar? We tend to do and say things without a conscious reason. And if we have a reason, it’s only vaguely coherent. Most behaviors aren’t viewed by individuals as chosen. Instead, we fall back on the reactionary stance to validate our actions. “Well, he started it,” we say as if we’re eight […]
You’re the screw-up. Whatever happened, it’s your fault! You should have done something different. It’s all you. The interesting thing about responsibility is that it cannot be assumed or assigned without conferring power. Almost everyone wants to argue about that, but it is an unavoidable fact. Power and responsibility go hand-in-hand. Just think, if you […]
All of the sudden, your heart is slamming against your breast bone with every beat and feels like it’s going to jump out of your chest. You’re breaking out in a sweat. An excruciating sensation grips your chest. You must be having a heart attack! Cardiac Infarction or Panic Attack? Getting to the E.R. on […]
If you’re in an abusive relationship, you’ll argue hotly that there’s nothing attractive about being abused. If you’re a bystander, watching someone you care about stay in an abusive situation, you may have asked why she doesn’t leave. Assuming the victim has financial wherewithal and no children to muddy up the waters, why does she […]
Not only is breaking up hard to do, it can be confusing and complicated. More and more, people don’t want an end that’s the end of a relationship. You can view this phenomena as a relationship evolving into something different, or maybe you just suck at resolution. Ending relationships is hard and who likes hard? […]