In this world of multiple marriages and repetitious divorces, the rapidity of making romantic commitments–particularly among the young–is increasing. Individuals at one time hesitated to use the word “love” in a relationship due to the implied commitment. Commitment was, for some, a big, scary word and divorce signified failure. These days, however, divorce is sadly […]
No matter how independent you are, other people are still important to you. While you may not want to, you care what others think. Even the most self-sufficient individuals still exist in a social world and there are moments when they struggle with both wanting to be known by others and fearing being known. This […]
Sometimes, dating sucks. The alternatives, however, are far worse. For those who aren’t in committed relationships, the choices are dating or social celibacy. While sometimes frustrating and, at other times, hilarious, dating offers a host of personal development opportunities, the primary one being the possibility of finding a mate. We must acknowledge respect for the […]
We may not like other people sometimes, but we humans have a need for contact. We stumble in and out of bad relationships, tolerate unhealthy family interactions and struggle to find true friendships. Like it or not, human beings have a need for emotional intimacy. It’s hard-wired into us, the urge for contact with others. […]
Fighting all the time? The “good” times are really good, but the “bad” times are starting to make you wonder if you should leave? Contrary to our wishful thinking, good marriages aren’t easy, but require a lot of work. Personal work. If you’re not working on you, then the relationship is probably not good for […]
Done right, sex feels good, but have you ever woken up the next morning and wondered what you were thinking? The truth is you probably weren’t thinking. There are some good reasons for engaging in sexual activity. The triad of hormones, relationship and potential fun is the best scenario. We won’t address the fun issue […]
You love them. They’re your kids and there’s nothing you wouldn’t do for them. If they needed a kidney or someone to snatch them from in front of a speeding car, you wouldn’t hesitate. The day-to-day moments are more challenging, however. The developmental tasks of the teen years involve learning to create successful relationships…and they […]
Emotions are funny things. Are you listening to yours? Some people seem to swim in an emotional world. They make their choices based on their gut feelings and they can tell you three or four emotions they’re having at any given moment. This level of emotional awareness, however, can seem negative and overwhelming to some. […]
Why of all human emotions do we feel the need to “manage” anger? There are no classes to help you avoid the mistakes you make under the influence of joy or confusion, and let’s be real, sometimes they’re bad choices. The emotion of anger, however, is associated with bad behavior, like beating the crap out […]
“I care about him,” she said, “but I’m just not in love with him anymore. We fight a lot of the time and the feeling between isn’t there anymore.” Should you divorce? Shauna and Parker(not their real names) married right out of college and started careers. After several years, they bought a house in a […]