“My sister and I are grown and on our own for fifteen plus years. We have [now] been disowned by our father for the past year. Our mother passed away 7 years ago, [but] just last year her mother passed away. [Our] father became very upset when my mother’s portion of the inheritance from our […]
‘Tis the season to be jolly…and shop and eat and spend time with family, although that last one may be making you nuts. These are the folks you grew up with and sometimes you want to bash their heads together. Most of us love the people who share our DNA, but that doesn’t make the […]
K. from Kentucky is very distressed that he’s cheated on his wife with a woman he says he cares for, but not as much as he loves his wife. He’s going to confess this to his wife (he doesn’t know how or when), but fears this will break them up. Probably. Since they don’t live […]
Contrary to some opinions, men and women can be friends. Sex can be terrific fun, but that doesn’t mean that all possible sexual partners turn you on. Sometimes, you just like another person apart from any interest in seeing him naked. Men and women can be friends. This doesn’t usually work if they just broke […]
You’re always supposed to be nice…right? That’s the message in the Santa Claus song(“….He knows when you’ve been naughty. He knows when you’ve been nice…”) and that’s what most mothers tell their kids. Particularly girl children. But niceness has limitations. Sometimes you need to state the facts and let happen what happens. NICE When you’re […]
It is a sad fact that relationships end. Sometimes with no obvious warning and sometimes with lots of break-up/get-back-together phases. Losing an individual who’s been very important in your life can be tremendously painful. If you’ve struggled through long, hard relationship battles, the end to it all can almost be a relief, but even then, […]
In the last century, parents routinely hid the fact of children being adopted and did everything they could to avoid discovery of this. The reasons for this well-meant deception aren’t obvious, but if there was then a stigma attached to the adopted situation, there isn’t now. There is, however, a sad reality that not all […]
Having issues with a parent is so common it’s become comedien-fodder. Think about all the “Mom” jokes you’ve heard. There are few things more that effect you more than how you get along with your parents. They were massively involved in your developing self-worth and their lives impacted you at a very sensitive time…they probably […]
It’s not enough that they gave you stretch marks before birth and heart attacks every time your kids ran for the street, they’re still troubling your sleep now. And they’re all grown up. It may not seem like your adult child–over the age of eighteen–is acting very mature, but you have to come to accept […]
It’s sad, but the only way we learn is to get the consequences of our choices. Some of these, though, are big and scary. You certainly don’t want your children getting the natural consequences of running out into the street. Much of parenting is blocking the big consequences until the kid can learn to safe-guard […]