Don’t kid yourself, no one parents as well as they wish they did. Raising kids is one of the hardest things on this earth and when you put pressure on yourself to parent your kids without ever messing up, you’re being too harsh. And unrealistic. You Weren’t Treated Well: Most individuals–even if they appreciate the […]
Many an individual comes to my office saying their relationship just isn’t how we used to be. They’re trying to sort out what to do with the marriage–whether to leave or to stay and keep plugging away. These folks report eroded emotions. That which used to be loving and connected, just isn’t anymore. When you […]
The majority of folk remember being chosen last when playing games at school. This can’t actually have been the case because just looking at it statistically, most had to have been picked somewhere in the middle. But lots of people identify with that chosen last feeling. The memory of this childhood trauma is an indication […]
Some parents feel harassed and hounded by their kids. They feel like the children in their lives have all the power. Ever tried to make a kid eat when he didn’t want to? Or make one sleep when he doesn’t want to? These are very frustrating situations and can make the most sane parents feel […]
Don’t nag. Most lessons in life come from us getting the natural consequences of our choices. Even though pointing out the bad choice or ugly behavior is very, very tempting, it doesn’t help. As parents, we have a tendency to talk and talk to our kids, making sure they understand the errors of their ways. […]
A reader in the military writes: “I am currently deployed to Afghanistan and my husband is deployed to Iraq. I received an email yesterday from him stating that he has a six month old son. We have only been married for 12 months. He said it happened before we got married, but we have a […]
One reader writes that she’s having trouble because she found out that her mom slept with her guy: “I’m a 21 year old female. I haven’t had a very good relationship with my mother over the last year and I’m having a very hard time with that because we’ve been close all my life. The […]
Don’t feel alone–lots of folks are dealing with this problem. Whether this involves mainly an addiction to pornography or you’ve progressed to the point of meeting strangers for quick hook-ups, sex addiction can take a huge toll. It interferes with real personal relationships and can take over your life. Recent research indicates some new and […]
These may not be unconnected. Except for the most disconnected individuals, sex is about intimacy. If you’ve got an established relationship, you can jump into sex directly and intimacy follows, but this isn’t typically how it works. Most of us need some level of emotional intimacy before things get physical. Even individuals who jump into […]
First a response to someone who solicited it: S. writes “I’m a 30 year-old Muslim, married a month ago. I saw my wife only one time and, at that time, I was satisfied with her, but then I got her photo and I wasn’t fully satisfied when I saw it. I informed my parents I […]