I hate to break it to you, but disagreements don’t just go away. You might stop arguing about something, but that doesn’t mean the conflict evaporates. Couples sometimes want to believe whatever they’re fighting about will just drift away, but this doesn’t really happen. You have a point; he has a point. You both have […]
This also comes under the heading of explaining. You might want to tell your significant other why you’ve done something (or not done something), but be careful. When you explain yourself, you can sound defensive. When you’re in the middle of an argument, you naturally want your partner to understand what you’re saying. Too often, […]
Everyone screws up sometimes. Most people screw up over and over, and this doesn’t have anything to do with how smart they are. When it comes to relationships, even the most intelligent people sometimes make goofy choices or say things they don’t really mean or do stuff they shouldn’t do. It happens. The most important […]
Break-ups are painful, particularly if you don’t want to break-up with your significant other. And few things are black-and-white. Maybe you can work it out. Every relationship has bumps along the way. You might have done or said some stupid, unkind things and you’re sorry for these. If your partner is walking away, it’s understandable […]
Going for the job you want, but are afraid you won’t get. Sticking by your word and following-through on difficult, but educational consequences for your kid. Actually asking for—and listening to—your mate’s feedback on what you do that makes him/her crazy. Standing up for what you believe, even when it’s unpopular and may lose you […]
It is very natural to want a relationship, someone to cherish and comfort you. Someone who loves you and is committed to being with you. Most human beings want just this. Relationships, though, are challenging, frustrating and maddening. They are the hardest thing we do in this world. Even the most highly intelligent individuals with […]
Blocked relationships are like clogged plumbing—the emotional stuff has to go somewhere. If you’re in a relationship with issues that have been unresolved for a long time, you’re vulnerable to falling into something with someone else. The longer your primary relationship goes unresolved, the more likely this is to happen. Leaving an unhappy relationship can […]
You’ve probably heard that relationships sometimes require you to give 110%. It is true that you sometimes give more when your mate is struggling, but you need to also know that you don’t get to tell your significant other what to do. The most challenging part of love is that, while you are impacted by […]
This is Relationship 101. No one likes to lose. Losing sucks and if you feel like your mate wins every argument, you won’t stay there long. Some folks try to deal with this winning-losing issue by never fighting, but this just doesn’t work. Like it or hate it, all relationships have conflict. Even if you […]
Break-up, then go out and find a new love. Then, when that love grows stale and unfulfilling, the cycle starts again. This is the pattern many people fall into. Relationships are hard, perhaps the hardest thing individuals do and many of them fail. Some relationships fall apart while you’re still in them; others end with […]